"Wow you've gained a lot of weight. You probably shouldn’t gain anymore.”
That’s a real-life comment I got the other day…. Did it hurt? Yeah, a little. Not as bad as it may have once did. Did it make me want to go back to the body I had a year ago, NOPE. And that right there is a HUGE step for me.
Body imagine has been a total brain fuck of mine ALL my life. Because of those types of comments and because of the profession I am in. Always feeling the need to have a lean body 24/7 was always going through my head.
But NOT today do those words affect me like they use too.
I couldn’t be happier with what my body is doing for me right now.
Yeah, I am not exactly comfortable in this “new” body of mine, but it is the HEALTHIEST it’s been in years.
I have a REGULAR period
My blood work is PICTURE PERFECT
I have a functioning thyroid (mine was SHOT this time last year)
And my energy and MOOD are great.
So, yes, I’ve gain weight and if my body needs to gain more to keep fixing the damage I did, I will allow it.
Why do we always feel that when people are gaining weight it’s because they’ve let themselves go, or they just don’t care anymore, and they are eating junk and not working out. Why do we think when people gain weight, they are UNHEALTHY?! It’s not our fault for thinking this, its society. I’ve even thought those things about my own weight gain, and others. We’ve pretty much have been told to think this.
And then here is the other side of it. People lose weight and we automatically assume they got their shit together, they are working hard, and eating right! “OMG, you look great, what are you doing?” But no one would dare ask that to someone who put on weight!
AM I RIGHT!?
I mean shit, its true. But let me tell you from my experience, it’s not always.
Little did they know when they made that comment to me and thought they were putting concern out there that I was becoming a “unhealthy” Tanya because I put on pounds, that I am actually the HEALTHIEST I’ve been in long long time! Now is the time you should ask me what I have been doing. I’ve healed my body! It still has some healing to do, but I’ve come a long ass way!!
Let’s try and stop commenting on people’s weight! Lost or gained! Like I’ve blogged before, “the scale doesn’t define you”. ”Your weight doesn’t determine your worth”.
Stop commenting on people’s weight, whether they have lost or gain. Why not comment on someone’s personality, or their strengths. Those comments can actually do SO much more damage even if you think you are complimenting someone.
And while we are at it, let's stop “jokingly” giving people negative feedback “omg you are showing off”, or “do you really need to go to all those classes”. Let it be!!!! JEEEEEZ, if they want to lift heavy and WORK HARD at class CHEER THEM ON, don’t bring them down! These comments hurt, and they bring us down, not up!
I know we can do better TGYF, I know that we are one of the best support systems out there and that’s why I love y’all so damn much.
Thanks for ALWAYS being there, and always supporting ME and each other through ALLLLL the shit we ALL go through!
It’s a true family up in here! Up in here, up in here….. okay side tracked... =)
LOVE YOU ALLLLLL SO DAMN MUCH!