It's been way too long since I have written! It was May 8th, and I wrote about a comment someone said to me about my weight. But who would have thought a month later I'd be PREGNANT! I am currently 21 weeks, and have had great ultrasounds and check ups of our precious baby girl.
Getting here was a journey. Mentally and physically, but I am SO proud of myself for doing what I needed to do to get here.
Every school year Amber's principal has a theme for his teachers. You remember the year I took his theme "Secure your oxygen mask first"? All about self care, and taking care of YOU, because if you don't take care of YOU first, there is no taking care of others or other things.
His theme this year is "Control the controllables.”
Think about that for a minute.
We may think that we have control over many things, but do we?! Yes and no right?! My last blog was about that comment someone made on my weight. And even though I may think I have control of what people say to me, I don't. But what I have control over is how I respond.
We don't have control over other people, but we have control over ourselves. How we respond, how we react and how we go about comments, suggestions, feedback and actions of others.
For so long I thought the comments and opinions of others controlled ME. But they don't. I control me, I have let those thoughts and opinions control me. I can't say that I am completely healed from feeling that way, but I AM in such a better place than I was.
I CAN control how I react , and I can control it in a positive way, not a negative way.
How else does this theme take into play for us?!
What about that overly long to-do list we have... life list, work list, SOCIAL list etc.
"Every time you say yes to something unimportant you are saying no to something important" ( Royston Guest ).
HOW true is this!!?? It goes back to one of my first blogs "Sick of trying to be perfect". Saying yes to every commitment and spreading yourself thin. I was trying to teach it ALL at the studio that I lost my love of instructing. I was cranky, and irritable. This wasn't good for ANYONE. So this time last year I took some time off. I stopped teaching at the town hall and I stopped teaching 6AMs. I had control over that and was able to take that time to breathe and heal until I was able to find my light again!
What are some things you are saying yes too that are unimportant? And what things are you not getting too that ARE important.
I had a really good conversation with someone who wanted to come back to classes but couldn't find the time. They were leaving for work at 7AM and not getting home until close to 7PM, M-F. She was also working some Saturday's and her only day off was Sundays. The last thing I was going to tell this person was on their only day off on Sundays was to get to the studio. SO I said, who do you need to talk to to tell them that your health is in jeopardy and that if you continue to work these hours you will be good for no one. I suggested she pick one morning she would get to work a little later and one evening that she HAD to leave on time. She talked to her boss and they were 100% okay with this!! And now she has been consistent 2x a week for a full month!!
There is so much we DO have control over that we think we might not have. Take your priorities and make them happen, things that are unimportant or UNCONTROLLABLE put aside.
I've missed writing. I have been in a REALLY good place, I mean how can I not be?! I have an amazing wife, 2 perfect fur children, a human baby girl on the way and the BEST freaking support system from my parents, friends and TGYF family. I'm blessed, I'm happy and I am healthy :) <3
Please please share your thoughts, I love making this a discussion!